linelei said: Can we talk about Lost Girl? As a bi woman, everyone kept telling me I'd love it because the main character is bi. But she's a bi succubus. - you know, someone who sucks other people dry for their sexual energy. I love that she's strong, and that she owns her sexuality, but I still find the succubus bit problematic. There are all sorts of sexy fae she could have been instead. Also they often say it's 'not her nature' to be monogamous, not clarifying if 'nature' means just succubus or also bi.
That’s a really interesting point. I had this show recommended to me recently, after I was going off about sexism and queer erasure in Supernatural, so I’m interested to talk about this.
And it’s actually reminding me of a question that people are having around Demon!Dean in the new season and whether his newly lowered inhibitions may result in some non-heterosexual behavior; and how all of that is problematic because you certainly don’t want to associate bisexuality with demonic impulses.
The monogamy question is interesting too. It’s a well-known and very harmful and dismissive stereotype of bisexuality that bisexual people are hyper-sexual and/or unable to commit.
At the same time, I generally appreciate the idea of being able to explore non-monogamous and/or polyamorous relationships.
What do you guys think?
I have only caught a few episodes, and was just thinking today about going back and watching it all. Based on what I’ve seen, I feel similarly conflicted. I mean, yay bi person on tv. But I do feel like making the bi character a succubus and playing up the hypersexual/will get with anything/unable to commit angle was problematic for me just in the very few episodes I watched. Despite the representation, I think some negative stereotypes are being perpetrated.
The beginning of the show does hyper-sexualize Bo, but in later seasons it gets less problematic. For one, she gets succubus training and such and it isn’t dangerous for her to “feed.” For another, I think she’s portrayed as *very* open to - probably even primarily hoping for - a long term monogamous relationship. It hasn’t worked out yet (because this is a TV show, and you know writers love their drama) but Bo tends to be the heartbroken one, not vice versa. She’s also, like, totally the hero, destined to save everybody, super loyal to her friends, and just generally portrayed as a very admirable character, even when that means she’s not the most interesting character or my favorite character. I encourage you to watch more of it and see if you like later seasons better.
Thanks for that, I’ll check it out.